Why It’s Important to Let Your Child Make Mistakes

As a parent, sometimes it can just seem easier to “fix” a problem your child is having by solving any of the issues for them. This could be as simple as fitting a piece into a puzzle they are working on, or it can be a more complicated issue like giving in to what they want while they have a tantrum in a public place. It is important for your child to learn from mistakes or consequences in any given situation. By fixing a problem, solving an issue or giving in to an unnecessary demand, you can harm the development of your child, even though if in the moment it seems like the right thing to do. This can also be the case when your children fight. Although sometimes being a mediator can be helpful, it is best for children to learn as early as possible how to mediate their own issues. This will help them to become more well-rounded adults.

Every Child is Different

This seems obvious, but its important. Just as every child is different, parenting each individual child must also be different. In accepting the person your child is, and not forcing the idea of who you think your child is, you can maintain a much better relationship with your child overall. By knowing or trying to understand who your child is, you will be better able to guide them through situations that may arise.

Actions Have Consequences

Not every outcome of your child’s decisions is going to be a good one, nut it is important that you allow your child to experience both good outcomes and negative consequences. You can tell a young child not too touch the stove because its hot as many times as you want, but if that child comes into contact with the stove, they will suffer the natural consequences and get burned. Although your child burning themselves is not an ideal situation, if it occurs accidentally, that child will learn from their mistake. As a parent, there will be a lot of guilt in this sort of situation, but humans learn through trial and error and it is natural for a child to need this sort of situation to learn what “too hot” means.

Judgement of Others

One of the easiest and most common reasons a parent will give in to their child is because of the judgement of others. Its horrifying to think that other people either think you are a bad mom or dad because your child is misbehaving and if it feels like other people around you are thinking it, or are making comments, it can make you start to think maybe there is truth to their words and opinions, but giving in to your child’s tantrums can instill more bad behaviour. If your child thinks that they get their way by crying or yelling, they will do it more often. By standing your ground in any particularly bad tantrum situations, your children will learn that they aren’t able to get away with that behaviour.

In letting your children have tantrums, make their own mistakes and getting to know who they really are, you are setting them up to be a much more well-rounded adult. It can be hard to watch your children fail, especially when you know the answers or are able to fix their issues, but in the long term, failure will be good for your children and celebrating their failures and being there for them in these situations can teach invaluable lessons.

Fidget Spinners – Helpful or Harmful?

Fidget spinners are the newest trend for kids everywhere. These little triangular toys are extremely inexpensive and fit in a child’s hand and spin around. You can even learn how to perform tricks with fidget spinners with video streaming services inundated with how-to tutorials. You’ll be hard-pressed to find a kid who doesn’t have, use or want a fidget spinner and because they are relatively cheap, it seems like an easy toy for parents to gift to their children that will keep some of their time preoccupied.

Although, fidget spinners are considered toys, their original use was seemingly more noble. Fidget spinners were originally marketed towards children with ADHD, anxiety, or being on the autism spectrum.

Helpful

Fidget spinners are being marketed at those with challenges concentrating in class. The idea is, if a child with problems concentrating has an outlet, they won’t be as distracted and “fidget” in class. Fidget spinners are small, handheld and because of this are said to be a good tool in schools for children that have challenges concentrating. Instead of moving around in their seats, looking out the window and having a hard time paying attention to their teachers, children can focus their extra energy into this small toy.

One of the biggest pros of fidget spinners is that they have become mainstream. A lot of students who used to feel like tools like this marked their differences and made them stand out as needing extra help in class, now feel as if this standout tool has been normalized. Learning challenges can be stress enough for a lot of children who don’t want to stand out or be different from their peers. Fidget spinners are regular and common and not only do kids with learning challenges have them, but their friends do as well.

Harmful

There has been a huge outbreak lately with classrooms and schools banning fidget spinners and for good reason. This toy which was originally intended as tool for children with specific concentration challenges ahs become “on trend” and now instead of a few kids in class using these toys, it’s most kids. For children who do not have challenges focusing, the fidget spinner has become an extremely large distraction. Teachers are finding that they don’t have the full attention of their students anymore and that fidget spinners have become less of a tool and more of a toy.

Fidget spinners have evolved from just a triangular device on a ball-mechanic system that you spin in your hand to help avoid fidgeting throughout your whole body. With the multitude of available YouTube tutorials teaching children how to do tricks, its no wonder the tool has become more of a toy. Children are using these spinners in class and they have become a massive distraction.

Other Options

Tactile discs, putties, clays, stress balls, or even fidget cubes are all great options as replacements for fidget spinners. These options can all be used as tools for students that need help focusing on class and their teachers and are often used for children with sensory challenges.

 

 

Fun Activities for Your Kids This Summer that Still Use Brain Power!

It’s the beginning of June and the end of the school year is quickly approaching. It’s time to start planning some fun summer activities for you and your kids. It’s always good to have a mix of relaxing and stimulating activities. Just because school’s out and your kids are on vacation, doesn’t mean that they have to stop learning. Try to use any opportunity you can to keep their minds curious and exploring.

Here are some ideas for activities for your kids that will keep their minds fresh for school in September:

Attractions to Visit

Zoo’s, museums, science centre’s and other great attractions can be found all around the country. These places offer great resources and learning opportunities. Animals and nature and cultural and scientific experiences all offer learning, but at these establishments, children are interacting with creatures and experiments. They are learning through doing, rather than by listening or watching. Not only will your kids be learning, but they’ll be having fun while doing it. Nothing about going to the zoo or a science centre will feel forced. This will be a fun outing for the whole family that won’t feel like learning. The best part of these types of places is that they often offer group discounts or cheaper tickets for children’s entry. This makes going to these attractions affordable and worthwhile.

Everyday Simple Activities

Oftentimes, we overlook the simple and free activities in local areas. A lot of parks hold free (or donation only) events throughout the summer. These are a great option for you and your kids. Art in the Park is a staple in most towns and cities (or will be in a town nearby) which will allow you and your children to wander through a festival in the summer weather that has lots of ways to get kids involved. Usually there are bouncy castles, face painting and kids crafts stations that your child will love. These days in the park pair perfectly with a picnic lunch. You can also take your children out for hikes, walks and bike rides. These are activities that take up a lot of energy, and are great exercise. These activities can be combined with a beach day.

On Their Own

Do some research to find out about day camps and special programs being run in your area. Many community centres and libraries offer events for children throughout the summer. Summer Reading Challenges are common at local libraries and usually they offer prizes to children who reach certain reading goals. These are great programs to keep your child’s mind sharp throughout the summer. Community centres sometimes offer craft days, dances (for older children), classes and movie nights. All these activities will keep your children entertained with very little parental effort.

Camping/Cottage

Although not all families have access to a cottage each summer, take advantage of the outdoors and try to get away from the hustle and bustle of the city and technology. Spending time at a cottage or going camping lets kids spend time outdoors and with their families. Children have to use their imagination and creativity to play games and make the outdoors fun. Plus, nothing beats eating hotdogs and marshmallows roasted by the fire.

If you find you don’t have the time or money to get away to a cottage or on a camping trip, why not choose a night to go camping in the backyard. This will be a great experience for your kids this summer!

Sports & Games

A lot of kids are excited about being active. There are many summer sports leagues that you can enroll your child in. Some of the more popular summer sports are soccer and baseball. There are a lot of kids leagues out their that don’t take up a huge time commitment. Not only is playing a sport great exercise for your child, but team sports will help your them to socialize and learn to be as part of a group.

Alternately, you can take your children to see an amateur or professional sports game. There are a lot of amateur teams playing in the summer. You’ll get to watch a sport together and maybe teach them some of the rules and pique their interest in learning to play.

As a parent, summer can be hard. Even though your kids have two months off, you still have work and other responsibilities. Trying to get your children engaged in activities with others and on their own will keep them entertained, active and still learning.

 

Martial Arts – The New Trend in Positive Child Behaviour  

Martial Arts has become a huge new trend in after school programs for children. More and more kids are becoming interested in learning this art form and although it used to be a male dominated sport, young girls are signing up as well. Not only is Martial Arts becoming trendy, but it is also teaching kids a lot of great values which are promoting positive behavior.

Movement/Exercise

It is extremely important for children to expend energy and Martial Arts is a great form of exercise that will get children moving. For young children especially, martial arts teaches large gross motor development. Children will be learning how to use their motor skills in a more controlled way. Martial Arts doesn’t just teach discipline of the mind, but it also teaches discipline in movement. To be able to perform the moves correctly, children must learn the exact movements. For instance, a common popular skill in a lot of styles of Martial Arts is using your hand to break through a plank of wood. In order to achieve this performance, children must learn the correct placement of their hand against the plank of wood.

Active Listening

Martial Arts requires children to practice active listening. In order to be able to learn the correct moves, children must be listening. Martial Arts instructors also demand respect. In their classes, children are expected to listen to instruction and to not interrupt instructors or cause distractions. This is one of the first lessons taught and one of the most important rules in classes. When the instructor is speaking or is demonstrating movements, the students are required to listen. Talking and distractions are not tolerated.

Violence As A Last Resort

 Martial Arts also teaches children appropriate problem solving methods other than violence. Despite Martial Arts being different methods of fighting, students are instructed that fighting is the last thing that one should be doing. For children, especially in schools, this is an important lesson. Oftentimes, when children get frustrated and don’t know how to use their words to work through their issues, they will throw a toy, bite or hit another child. In the training received in Martial Arts, children learn that they are not supposed to be using their bodies in altercations. Martial Arts teaches this control and a more calm way of overcoming issues.

Reward Systems

For a lot of children, receiving rewards for achieving certain feats is a great system. In Martial Arts, children have to work hard throughout the year to be able to test for their belt. The belt system is a great reward because children have to commit to Martial Arts as an activity. A child cannot become a black belt early on, it takes many years, hard work and commitment in order for a person to become a black belt in their chosen field of Martial Arts. All of the belts before the Black Belt work as the Martial Arts versions as trophies. These belts are keepsakes that will be the physical manifestations of the work that a child has put into this activity.

How to Develop A Child’s Curiosity Through Everyday Situations

Children are at their most malleable in their early years. Even though they all attend school on weekdays and have certified teachers that help them learn to read, write, do math as well as various other subjects, children are likely to do a lot of their learning from their parents in everyday situations. It is important for parents to take an active role in their child’s learning. Juggling work and social obligations might make it seem impossible to find time to teach your children as well, but in using everyday situations as learning tools, you’ll find it doesn’t take much time at all. Here are some ways that you can teach your children and help them to expand their curiosity and learning:

Grocery Shopping

Grocery shopping is a great way for parents to use a boring errand as a tool for learning. Ask your children to recognize brand names, for instance, in the cereal aisle, you can ask them to grab you a particular box. See if they are able to recognize it by name, by the colour schemes on the packaging or even the pictures of the cereal on the boxes. Another great thing you can do with your child at the store is have them help you count out the correct change needed to pay for your purchases.

Screen Limitations

 Screens have become an important tool for children’s learning. In schools, tablets have become a part of lessons using educational apps as teaching aids. However, a lot of children have access to tablets, smartphones and other various screens at home and aren’t necessarily using them as learning tools. Of course, its fine for children to watch TV and play games, but its also important to realize when it becomes too much. Limiting screen time will encourage children to find alternative entertainment. This can include playing with physical toys — which can encourage improvement in motor skills—or going outside, which usually involves more active play.

 Going for Walks in Nature/Gardening

 This is an especially great way to get children interested in the environment. Bird’s nests, small animals and bugs are all interesting parts of nature that will get children asking questions about different species and how they differ from us and the importance they have towards the earth. You can also have your child join you while gardening. They will see you caring for and tending to flowers and other plant life. This is also a great way to get your children involved in caring for the environment and helping them to learn from an early age the importance of respecting our planet.

 Read In Front of Your Child

 Your children look up to you and will want to copy what you’re doing. Instead of parking yourself in front of the TV and watching Netflix after dinner, read a book. This will encourage your child to seek out a book to read as well. This is an especially good tactic for reluctant readers. At first they may not actually be reading the books they pick up, but if you persevere, your child is more likely to become a reader which will help them develop.

 Read to Your Child Every Night

 Similarly, it is important to read to your child each night. Make reading a picture book or two a part of their nighttime routine. Try to get them to help you to read these books. If they are engaging with the words while looking at the pictures instead of just listening, they will pick up a lot more. This is great quality time for you to spend with your children and if you start early enough with reading to them every night, when they become older, reading at night before bedtime will be an established part of their routine. This way they are more likely to read independently at an older age.